Comments on: curling

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:10:19 +0000

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By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:56:45 +0000

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By: JustMiss

JustMiss — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 20:14:41 +0000

This is so the truth. We try our hardest but eventually, they will make their own choices. I think your issue with Owen is a mix of all the changes and the age. For me, 3-5 were the hardest years with my son because he's figuring out who he wants to be, and its about the age he thinks he's very much in charge of himself. Raising kids is hard sometimes. Sigh.

By: analogmoon

analogmoon — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 04:39:41 +0000

Yup. Totally with you there, dude. I have held a 22oz QuicTrip cup for my 2yo daughter so she could pee in the back of our van when there were no close places on a trip. Ditto holding the car door open to shield my son going pee on the side of the interstate.
They would scream about that now – as they are 14 and 17, respectively.
These things we do for our kidz
Oh and I LOVE the curling analogy. So true.
I just wish I could sweep I little faster.
hugs

By: ~Jennifer~

~Jennifer~ — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 01:56:08 +0000

Kids are amazingly resilient. They may not like change at first, but after a little while its as though they don't remember things being any other way. It's the adults that hang onto the way things wear. As long as parents do heir best to keep their kids healthy and happy, they rest is just stuff.

By: Lynette

Lynette — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 16:17:41 +0000

I try to think of it as making their paths a little easier and hoping they go the right way (TOTALLY like curling)

Either way, We've done the best we can do now we wait to see who's got the high score, I mean…see how they turn out.

By: gvsharon

gvsharon — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 01:01:41 +0000

I second what "shriekhouse" said in his second paragraph. If kids know that they are loved no matter what and that the tensions and stresses from the outside world are not their fault, they can weather a whole lot. I think your analogy to curling is brilliant. Parenting is so like that. Guiding as best we can, and, being the example. No matter what we say, like it or not, they watch what we do.
And you know you are a good dad if you are willing to do what you did for your son when he just had to poop. That's a new one for me. I think I would have tried to invade the ladies room if I could, and the ladies would have understood, I'm sure. Keep it in mind for next time.
From what I've observed, you're doing a great job.

By: Theresa

Theresa — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:51:51 +0000

LOVE your analogy! As the parent of 4 (17,15 and 10yo twins) I can tell you it certainly fits the older they get!

We parents can ask these questions and stress over the answers until we are blue in the face and dialing EMS. There are no answers. All you can do is the best you can do by sweeping at that ice.

By: shriekhouse

shriekhouse — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 05:38:53 +0000

Oh man, that paper towel poop-catching business just washes away all the pain of being up this late. Thank you for the belly laugh.

I like the curling analogy. The frantic sweeping does indeed seem familiar. I think everything has an impact on kids, sure, and to some extent informs their actions later in life, but the most important thing is to make sure they *know* they are valued and deeply loved, and how to value and love others. I don't know anyone these days who's NOT operating at a high level of stress — and while it's hard on everyone, we can still model for our kids what strength & integrity & compassion look like, even under duress.

By: pamelaperez

pamelaperez — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 05:34:55 +0000

I think every GOOD parent thinks that. That wer are fucking up our own children in some way... but like you said they turn out the way they want and we can only 'sweep' them in the right direction.

I cuss sometimes. my two year old catches it sometimes and says uh oh. I drink then she goes to get her sippy cup and sits down next to me. I'm not going to hide stuff from her, ya know?

Now I had no idea where I was going with this but I know was going somewhere so I will just stop here.